Compare contrast dating vs marriage
Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.
If you were talking to a girl, that wasn't a big deal of any sorts, people actually used to talk to each other, a lot.
Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.
(See Proverbs 3:5–7.) Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.
This was even before texting was a form of communication, you had to pick up a phone and call her, usually getting her parents answering the phone.
It's a bit intimidating but he was a man and that's how it was done.